I always assumed that this fetish developed in most people before they even had sexual thoughts about the opposite sex. I convinced my babysitter to tie me up when I was about 8 or 9.
Howie There's some pretty compelling evidence that the tendency toward "twists" in our most personal selves from anxiety or anger to gimp-hood, are inborn as a result of experiences shared in-womb with our mothers and the process of getting out into the outside world.
For most of us, though, there's an ability to recognize the difference between what happens inside our heads and in the world of others.
Now you argue that we should not feel empathy for him because we do not share the same kinks as he had, as if only our own kinks are worthy of empathy. I just posted a book long post talking about how I'm into Rape, Torture, and Snuff fantasy, and your take away from that is that I'm saying I haven no empathy for him because our tastes differ?
I suggest you read (or re-read) "First They Came," by Martin Niemoller. Rather than suggesting reading material for us, you should first work on your own reading comprehension, then take another crack at the posts you completely missed the point of below.
When I hit puberty those kind of thoughts just became incorporated into my sexuality.
Sorry, guys, but you don't get to post half a dozen more comments extolling the supposed legitimacy for your lack of empathy for the cop and then suggest that you're all sick and tired of the topic so no one else should post any more on it. Your justifications for your lack of empathy get more inexplicable as you go on.A lot of guys (and not just the ones who have the fetish) don't have the social skills that endear them to women, and they go their whole lives never learning what it takes to attract them.Women are mysterious creatures, and when you're growing up and getting your hormones, they are pretty much all you think about.So please, highlight the offending imaginary text that backs up the wild assertion you just made.Howie The line in my post about being sick of the subject matter is a direct quote from bleumune's post, which I directly attribute to him, and his post is only 1 post removed from mine.The desire to somehow control her, either through stories, videos and movies, can be an outlet for them.