You can always rephrase the sentence from a negative to a positive, which will correct the behavior without sounding critical.
” This gives the child respect and responsibility for their actions.
I can’t tell you the number of times I hear that phrase when around other parents, even though it is highly ineffective.
I will also give the Play Therapy based alternative with a short explanation of why it is more effective.
Kids hear the word “no” far too frequently (Read more about that here).
Encouragement, and this phrase is arguably the most commonly spoken praise children hear. Instead of cutting off the conversation, you can say, “I know you want my answer to be different, but it will not change”.
You can also train yourself to make sure the child fully understands your response, with “I just told you my answer. ” This allows the child to present their opinion or get clarification.The former acknowledges that the child already figured out the problem, but is still comforting.When redirecting behavior, it is difficult to know how to phrase things in the best manner.If a child is coloring the grass purple, it is easy to tell them it must be green.A kid can sit down on a chair facing the back, and we make them turn around.When I think about all of the phrases, anecdotes, and sayings about the power of the spoken word I am reminded of how I changed my way of communicating with children upon learning Play Therapy principles.