It’s no secret that women love compliments, but too many compliments, especially thrown out too early on will make her think you’re insincere, desperate, are a low value guy and ultimately just want to get in her knickers. Top Tip: Instead of asking questions, make statements with a photo: “mmmmm, I love cats in bread” 7.30am: “Morning (girl’s name) X” 9.05am: “Just got to the office. Hope my boss didn’t notice lol.” pm: “Lunch break YAY! Think I’m gonna go Pret :)” 6pm: “Finished work, going for a drink with some friends.
There’s a common misconception flying around that since women love talking about themselves it’s a good idea to ask them lots of questions. No one wants to be bombarded with questions, especially questions that aren’t fun like “do you always go to that club? Wish you were here :)” 9pm: “I’m back home, did you have a good day? Seriously…if you think giving a girl updates on your day is cool, look at it from her perspective.
” If you really want to send her photos that’ll put a smile on her face, send photos of adorable furry animals. If you’re using text slang, improper grammar, or being lazy about checking your messages before you send them, chances are you’ve already blown it. If she never swears or uses slang language, never use it back.
She’ll appreciate those a lot more 🙂 “I had a gr8 time last nite. Read your texts before you send them and don’t use slang. Note: LOL and WTF are ok to a point, but try to avoid these in the first few texts so you can test to see if she likes using them. If she sends you a long message, reply with a long one back. No girl wants to look in the mirror and see a witch staring back, so don’t give her a bad reflection by sending 6 texts back if she only sends 3, or reply to a 20 character sentence with a 200 character text monologue.
Even if the impact you made on her was badass, it’s important you show her you’re not just a one trick pony and keep the fun alive.
So no meaningless texts like “how are you doing”, “what’s up” and “hi”, which will contribute nothing of value to her image of you. Trying to arrange a date before you’ve made a girl excited to see you again is a fatal mistake countless guys make over and over again.
What the above demonstrates is neediness and we discovered neediness to be one of the biggest attraction killers when we interviewed 100 single women. Even if she replies to any of these types of messages she’s only doing it out of politeness at first before she puts a restraining order on you! Your close friends might enjoy the occasional monologue but to a girl you’ve yet to date, they will only make them think you’ve got issues and are needy.
No one wants to have to scroll through dozens of words to get to a point that could have been conveyed in just a few.
There’s no excuses for falling into the friend zone and even if you think it’s impossible to answer some of her texts with anything other than a friend to friend response then you’re wrong. You might think the only possible answer you can give is “it’s going great, how’s yours”, but instead, this is the perfect opportunity to tease her: “clearly it’s going much better than yours! This way, she’ll probably reply by saying, “nah, mine’s way, way better than yours” and from there you can move into a much more playful frame. Don’t try too hard to act aloof and indifferent all the time.
Sure, it’s cool to be cool, but if you’re too cool, you’ll cool her off. If you don’t show any emotions she’ll think you’re not interested in her. If you got a text from someone you don’t know very well asking why you chose to become a lawyer, would you really be motivated to text them back?
Your level of investment must either match or be lower than hers, so adapt to her texting style and respond in tune with her. To avoid slipping into the friend zone at all costs, avoid idle chit chat like the plague.
Tease her, play with her, include her on inside jokes so the feelings of fun and attraction she felt for you when you first met are not only maintained but amped up, so your texts light up her eyes rather than dull her day with the burden of having to text you back.
Remember, hot girls receive dozens of texts a week from guys just like you. If you haven’t sparked enough emotion, she’ll more than likely turn you down.