The game when you are dating

My thought process: if they are really too busy to set a time to hang, then they do not have time for a relationship.If your text isn’t important enough to deserve a timely response, then they do not actually care — which sucks. Don’t waste valuable time that could be spent doing awesome things, moping around un-awesomely waiting for a text.

I’m going to venture out on a limb here and say that most people find honesty refreshing.

Most people are tired of hearing the same old lines. Too often, after hours or days of waiting, when the phone finally announces that a message has actually been received, it is a paltry offering along the lines of “Sup” or “How’s it going? But turning texting into a competition of "who cares less" will destroy whatever spark or chemistry you had when you first met.

I don’t know who came up with all the concepts that plague modern dating, but a lot of it is just BS.

Whether or not we like it, we all have to deal with things like ghosting, benching, and almost-relationships.

By the end, she'd reply almost immediately, which of course led me to conclude that the whole slow response thing at the beginning was purely intentional.

Though I found it annoying at the time, I didn't worry too much about it.I want true love, and if that means participating in this mess, then I’ll fight to the bitter end. I want something real, and if that means putting my heart on the line, then so be it. Others might think competition is a necessary part of the game, but I refuse to play dirty. I’m not going to stomp on someone else’s love story just to finish writing my own. No matter how many times my heart gets chewed up and spit out, I just keep coming back for more. Kelsey Dykstra Kelsey Dykstra is a freelance writer based in Huntington Beach, CA.The stakes are high, but it’s a risk I have to take. I don’t want to have to bring others down to build myself up. Guys will break my heart, but it’s girls who will pick me back up, and I choose to fight with them rather than against them. She has been blogging for over four years and writing her whole life.Originally from Michigan, this warm weather seeker relocated to the OC just last summer.She enjoys writing her own fictional pieces, reading a variety of young adult novels, binging on Netflix, and of course soaking up the sun.We are exhausted from waiting a fortnight to know if you want to "grab a coffee." We are sick of watching those three little dots undulate across the bottom of the screen only to stop... There are too many rules now for how to "correctly" text a crush, so I say "F*#k it." Throw the rules out the window, burn them to the ground!