Just as I think I have been stood up, a lone chap arrives, clad in a lime-green anorak, looking anxious and slighter in stature than I was expecting.
Making it past their screening process is no easy feat (unless you happen to be a minor celeb, you’re going to need some luck! But before you thumb your nose at it, it’s worth noting that if you’ve got a hobby that you really care about in your 40s—such as staying really fit, which we wholeheartedly encourage—it’s a terrific way to meet a compatible, like-minded person.
), but selective element can be a major plus, since you know everyone else on the app went through the same thing. According to their website, find someone who is already on the app to invite you. According to Lisa Bahar, a California-based licensed marriage and family therapist, super-specific apps are great for older crowds with firmer routines in their daily lives.
In other words, it’s a good resource for both sexes, and for those who aren’t just looking to talk to as many potential matches as possible. Coffee Meets Bagel (have two things ever been more perfectly matched?
) removes some of that stress by giving you a limited number of matches every day at noon.
Structured around interests and hobbies, this app encourages members to connect over whatever they have in common, hopefully creating a fun story about how they first met their new significant other. Of course, you can opt to have your profile visible to matches in both categories—age is just a number, after all—but it’s nice to know that the app has ways to cater to specific age groups.
Profiles are vetted by real people, and users are required to provide information like where they went to college and what their job is. If the idea of a conventional dating app makes you feel weird, the League may interest you.
We ranked the best apps that are friendly to people of slightly older age groups—paying special attention to the ones where you’ll have the most potential matches to choose from.
Some you’ve heard of, others you haven’t, and one of them will even offer you the opportunity to date a Victoria’s Secret model.
One caveat: Because the app sources your matches from friends of friends on Facebook, this might not be the best option for those who are trying to widen their dating pool beyond their community. According to recent research, First Met has one of the highest percentages of users who are 30 or older, with only 2.3% of its users being in the 18 to 29 age bracket.
Again, the bigger the pool, the better chance you have of meeting someone amazing, and with over 30 million users, that’s a pretty huge pool. This app knows that age is a factor, and because of that it divides people up into two categories: young professionals (40 and under) and professionals (40 and up).
It's also a great time for some self-reflection about what you're looking for in a new relationship.