Still, there is a lot in Regnerus’s analysis that is uncomfortably astute.
If that doesn’t work out, there’s always porn, which requires next to no effort to find.These factors, Regnerus argues, “have created a massive slowdown in the development of committed relationships, especially marriage.”Marriage rates have indeed plummeted among young adults, to the point that a demographer cited by Regnerus estimates that one-third of people currently in their early 20s will never get married.Popular dating apps put women in the position of gatekeeping, whether deliberately or not.It is a truth universally acknowledged that a single man in possession of a smartphone will swipe right on basically everyone.So they ghost and flake and dither about committing to one person.
Many women don’t need what resources men have to offer, anyway; they have their own.
This forces women to be choosier about who they say yes to.
Even if they also swipe with abandon, they end up with more matches to sort through—yet more gatekeeping.
The next day, the famous author wrote a letter to Peter Bide, the priest who had married them, to tell him the news.“I’d like to meet,” Lewis writes, suggesting the two grab lunch sometime soon. One doesn’t realize in early life that the price of freedom is loneliness.
Lewis’s wife, Joy Davidman, died of bone cancer on July 13, 1960.
Regnerus quotes the famous psychologists Roy Baumeister and Kathleen Vohs, who write that “giving young men easy access to abundant sexual satisfaction deprives society of one of its ways to motivate them to contribute valuable achievements to the culture.” Still, it seems extreme to suggest that men need to be dragged by the dick into being productive citizens.