Every once in a while, I like to poll my readers on the Nerd Love Facebook Page and on Twitter to find out what issues they feel are holding them back when it comes to dating.And the most common answer is: “I worry that I’m too fat to date.” I’ll be honest: I’m not surprised. According to the Center for Disease Control, 69% of adults 20 years old and over are overweight and 35% are considered obese.
And yet even when the number of people who are considered overweight form the majority of the population, obesity is in many ways one of the remaining acceptable prejudices.Last week, the #fatshamingweek hastag was trending on Twitter as numerous assholes and shitbags took to the network and decided to mock fat people – mostly women, but men too – from behind the dubious anonymity of their Twitter accounts.I don’t know why God healed her family, but not your own.I don’t know why your growing baby has a deformity.Beaches like Puerto Galera, Boracay, and the various beaches in Cebu rake in tourists from around the world all year round because of their pristine and cool blue waters and fine, white-sand shores.
However, if one will just look around more, they will find that there are other less-known but equally beautiful beach spots in other parts of the Philippines.
Large dudes will frequently lament that their size automatically disqualifies them from dating – they believe that there is simply no way a woman could possibly like somebody who’s body isn’t rippled and shiny like a buttered ear of corn. Kevin Smith, for all of his fashion sins that I will get into in a second, is happily married with a lovely wife and daughter. It’s easy to forget this when the TV and magazines are showing you nothing but image after image of cut, veiny men with swimmers builds with women draped all over them like fur stoles, but women actually like a far wider range of body types than we’d think.
Ask five women what their ideal male build is and you’ll get six different answers.
Maybe it’s a husband for you, or perhaps a certain job. At the time of her deepest despair, a gust of wind came and she heard the word, “Tirzah”.
Maybe it’s school acceptance or healing for a family member. She had no idea what the meaning of the word, but heard it twice more.
In theory, I rejected this prosperity Gospel, but my frustration with God displayed otherwise. But when we open our eyes to the grand story happening all around us, we see the astounding beauty that leaves us speechless. Not an obligatory love, but a love that delights in who you are.