of The Couples Institute, recommends playing Twenty Questions with your partner because "They [questions] allow you to discover or rediscover who your partner is." By developing a deeper understanding of your partner's mind and spirit, you could find yourself more deeply in love.
By encouraging people to tell stories about themselves, you not only learn about their history but also about them from the way they talk about their lives.
I would much rather explore and examine, from the perspective of being on the other side of the experience, not just what I want, but what I want, even though relationship experts generally encourage focus on the positive.
I am a believer, based on my own personal and professional perspective that I need to clear the detritus of previous encounters in order to build anew.
Of course this seasoned woman has had time and life enough to make these queries. At this point in my life, I have accumulated experiences and life lessons that I desire to share with a partner.
I consider myself a wealthy woman since my friends and family are my treasures.
You don't want your date to feel like an interrogation or a job interview, so you'll have to take special precautions to make the question and answer process more bearable.
You could each write down questions on scraps of paper--serious and fun so the mood doesn't get too heavy - and throw them into jars (yours in one, his in another).
Take turns fishing out questions and answering them.
You could also play a game where, for every point scored, the person who earned the point gets to ask a question.
Although my parents came from “different sides of the track,” with divergent socio-economic background, love and that intention sustained their nearly 52 year marriage.
A huge dose of love, fun, affection in word and action, co-creating wonder, thinking of the other person and what will delight them, shared responsibility for maintaining a household, flexibility, willingness to work through “stuff” when things get messy, taking time and space to breathe and respond, rather than react and attack, knowing that we have each other’s backs, open mindedness and openheartedness, creativity, play, spiritual practice, sexual nourishment, mutual support of each other’s dreams (even if they are not in lock step with each others’), are on my desire list.
This question is one ALL of us are discovering and rediscovering on a daily basis, but as a general overview, here are things you might want to know about yourself: I know who (whose) I am in Christ. We are 100% fully loved, accepted, chosen, restored, redeemed and saved.