I tried to stir the conversation to other topics, sadly he had a topic lock and loaded.“You know, I’m really into Eugenics”Motherfuc***.“I really would like to see a “perfect human being”, eugenics is amazing …”Being a rather left winged individual I quickly pointed out how that chain of thought often leads to extreme views, like, oh I dunno, Nazism? I remember how surreal it seemed, it was like I was an illustration in a book called “Things you should never say in a date or in life, you moron.”.
This is literally the textbook example of “The worst thing you can probably say with your mouth”.“You do know how many people he killed, right?
I withdrew myself more and more from the conversation until we were sitting on a bench and he just kept talking non-stop about himself without even realizing I was long gone, my mind was elsewhere already.
Even thought a biochemical weapon was definitely pushing the limits of a the moral event horizon.“That’s Cool” I said, in half-hearted manner.“Yeah, I really like to study how weapons affect people. I loved reading about how it hurted people, I heard children were burnt completely and their insides…”My instinct was immediately activated and I stopped him there. A questioned popped in my mind “why did he mention children specifically? ” but I had no intention to get an answer.“I’m sorry” he replied “I have a morbid sense of humor.” That’s not morbid, that’s downright sadistic.
This was the first 15 minutes of the date, so leaving at that point didn’t really feel like an option, I felt like I was stuck in a social etiquette cage, so I tried to change the subject, but things just went downhill from there. My soul probably left my body in shock for a few seconds because I can’t even remember clearly what his arguments were.
He wasn’t a particularly good-looking person, he had these weird goatish features I even said he reminded me of Wilbur Whateley from the Dunwich Horror, but he had a funny and sarcastic (I thought) bio description and I decided to give it a go. You know that feeling of not being able to assess someone’s personality because all the hints they give you seem very contradictory? He would explain to me how smart he was while his arguing skills were weak at best, and his knowledge of things seemed very focused on certain niche subjects.
Still I was intrigued, sadly I’m a very curious person and it bothered me very profoundly that I couldn’t understand this guy.
We went on a date, I told him I don’t like to walk during dates, I’d much prefer sitting down and drink coffee, he told me he liked the exact opposite.
I agreed with him that we would do both so none would be unhappy. Let’s go to downtown”So we walked, and walked and walked.
This time I matched with an apparently normal person and we chatted for a few days, no red flags were risen.
I invited him for a coffee, initially he was very shy about the idea but he eventually accepted it and we scheduled to meet downtown.
I decided to learn Arab because I like niches very much.”After many, much self-indulgence he said “We’ve been no this date for hours but I haven’t learned anything about you…” NO SHIT MATE, I can’t even gasp for air without you telling me how amazing you are at breathing.
Honestly even writing this I still feel pissed off because this guy was so hopelessly annoying and egoistical, It was one of those dates that made me feel like pummeling the guy’s face with punches and never look back.
Couple of things about this guy: Even though he was just a few years younger than me, he looked unnervingly young, he was also in high school because he had flunked many years, I even asked to see his ID to make sure I wasn’t getting conned into some weird scheme.