From then on, the relationship was no longer enjoyable.
Every interaction and conversation became a test to see exactly where he stood and how he felt.
Most understood the point I was making in the article, but rather than relaxing and just going with the flow, they wanted to know: “How can I fix it if I was stressing too much? When you care too much, you inevitably become attached to a certain outcome.
This little exercise will help you train your mind to stay calm and avoid spinning into a frenzy.It will help you gain control over your thoughts and your mood, and this will be of major benefit to you and your relationship. Be present The biggest problem with stressing over your relationship is it takes you out of the relationship and brings you to a much more disturbing place. When you go on a date with a guy, whether it’s the first or the fiftieth, all you should be thinking about is enjoying your time with him and building a connection.Anyone who has dated long enough knows exactly what I’m talking about.The problem is our minds trick us into believing there is some sort of payoff to this type of thinking.Or let’s say you’re in a serious relationship and there has been talk of getting engaged but he hasn’t popped the question yet.
Instead of getting angry about it, just give yourself a deadline.
For example, let’s say you start seeing a new guy and things are going great. You feel a sense of dread deep in your gut and you know, you just know, that he’s never coming back.
You talk regularly, go on fun dates, it seems to be going really well. Meanwhile, in boy land, he’s been really slammed at work and has barely had a minute to come up for air.
This also works if you’re in a more established relationship.
Let’s say you don’t see your boyfriend as often as you’d like.
If he doesn’t propose in the next month, then I will be upset and I will deal with it.