After more verbal ping-pong about whether people with disabilities could date “normies,” I claimed a temporary victory.
She agreed to let me upload my profile to her site.
A friend had called my office complaining he had been rejected as a client by a new matchmaking service in town.
Nine times out of ten if a friend says they have someone I should meet, the person often has a disability.
Even though all my friends’ choices for me have been great, I can’t help but wonder why they are pushing me towards other people with disabilities.
To many that statement may sound exaggerated, but it could be based on some truth.
Last month, I was talking to a friend who does attendant work in the area.
I would like to think they have my best interest at heart, but I can’t help but wonder if there is an unconscious fear of suggesting me to certain people.
They might assume if they set me up with someone they know, that person might think they’re playing a mean trick.
When I tried to ask what was wrong with dating a man with a disability, she said, “Come on, Jacob, you know.” I said I didn’t know.
She continued, “It would look weird me dating someone like you.” Again when I asked why she simply said, “You know the answer.”My friend’s reluctance to address why it is odd for people with disabilities and able-bodied folks to date each other mirrors the tension around the issue that exists in the media.
The suggestions this woman made about me dating other people with disabilities has surprisingly been made by a lot of my progressive friends.
Whenever I ask for dating tips, some have asked me if I tried dating women with disabilities.
Being advised to stick to your own kind is ironic coming from people who claim to be anti-racist.