) So, often these troubles occur when someone didn’t get to know the person before leaping into the relationship.” “I think NJ women have to deal with stereotypes just like the NJ men here.
And often, at least according to my Japanese male friends, those stereotypes involve aggressive attitudes, impatience, sexual promiscuity, and resistance to compliance. And while some of those same stereotypes apply to NJ men, the Japanese women who are attracted to NJ men are generally (in my experience) attracted to and are frankly expecting those qualities from NJ men (and may or may not be receptive if they’re not present).
Living in different prefectures we never would have met without the show.” “One big difference I’ve found is that there are fewer places here in Japan where it’s seemly to approach women.
Chauvinism and misogyny are male attributes that are present all over the world, and Japan is no exception.The society dictates what is acceptable, tolerable, attractive and even what will bring a man the prestige among his peers he might desire, and in most cases the women they choose either fulfill these needs or are expected to conform to them somehow.I found it hard to make anything more than superficial connections or move past friendship.I joined in the TV show at the last minute not expecting much.In my experience, most Japanese men would label the challenges caused by having a NJ wife ‘mendokusai’ (*a pain in the rear).” “In the end, Japanese women are just women as well. Usually there’s no initiative to approach men, like for example in Germany. Starting with a completely different meaning of ‘love’ in Japan, followed by the concept of ‘honne’ (本音: real feelings) and “tatemae” (建前: what she’ll tell you) to name just a few. Be prepared for a lot of disappointment.” “A lot of Japanese dudes are thinking that gaijin women are just too strong for them and that these women wouldn’t fit into the typical role of a woman in a typical Japanese marriage.
And if a Japanese woman approaches you as a gaijin, just run as fast as you can! Well, I’ll tell you foreign ladies a secret: A lot of disappointed male gaijin are just waiting for a chance with you! He says about himself that he’s a rather introverted person who wouldn’t just walk up to a Japanese woman, throwing the following at her: “Konnichiwa, nice stockings, wanna go out?When approaching women, guys often are afraid of being embarrassed or publicly rejected. If the woman isn’t interested, or doesn’t understand you (for those who don’t know any Japanese yet), she’ll just ignore you or walk away.You can simply blame it on the language disconnect and move on.” “Sometimes you don’t have to approach at all.Also, if you check certain English language magazines like Metropolis, or certain websites, you’ll find personal ads from Japanese women who are in the market for NJ guys.Although I’ve found a strong preference for white guys in these ads.They were mainly concerned about how to approach a Japanese woman and cross-cultural differences that could be an issue.