Once you have a road map of a partner that makes you happy, give attraction and chemistry a chance to develop, even if it takes five or more dates to figure it out.
Dating after divorce isn’t easy, and will require a great group of people surrounding you to keep you motivated and inspired!
Maybe it’s your buddies from work, school, your family, neighbors or kids.
Beware of going out five times in a week with someone you just met!
One date per week within a few weeks turns into two dates per week, and then three dates per week. The only way another person will change is if he/she wants to change himself. As much as you’d like it to be super efficient and speedy, it’s usually not, nor should it be.
I’m in it to win it, not in it for a minute.” At this point, I hope you’ve done the "inside work" necessary to find a healthy relationship.
Do you understand what went wrong in your relationship?Are you aware of your role in the marriage’s demise?And, have you made as much peace as possible with your ex and the divorce?Sex can be great but, had too early, can cause the demise of a relationship as we are caught in a fog of oxytocin, estrogen, testosterone and dopamine.Sure, there are a few couples that had sex early on and it turned into a happy marriage, but those are pretty few and far between.I coach all of my clients through a “marriage map” exercise to create a road map of a partner that will make them happy, which is necessary to start picking the right people. Many women stare blankly at me when I ask this question, because they’ve been so busy taking care of everyone else around them that they’ve totally lost sight of what makes them happy.