Maybe you're worried your friends will take his side.
Or maybe you're not certain if an incident is even reportable.
Maybe he grabbed your wrist too hard or insisted you have sex even though you didn't feel like it.Later he told you he didn't mean it, that he was sorry and he wouldn't do it again. If any of this sounds familiar, you're in the company of what may be millions of others, including some particularly high-profile young women—Sarah Hyland has made headlines for allegedly being abused by longtime boyfriend Matt Prokop, and the reports of domestic violence by professional football players continue be a huge cultural issue.At a school dance, Chloe says, he refused to take pictures because he didn't like what she was wearing."It was embarrassing—my family and friends were there, and I didn't know what to say," she shares. " After that Chloe did "whatever he said" in order to avoid arguing.She was also afraid of what other people would say.
Would they believe Ali hadn't "asked for it," as her friend said she had?"He told me he was going to kill me and what he was going to do with my body," she recalls grimly. He begged her not to tell anyone and promised he would never do it again. Dating violence is one of those things that happens to other people.Until, that is, it happens to you, or someone you know."I just wanted to forget the whole thing happened," she admits.Looking back, Ali says, there were signs that the relationship was unhealthy, even though it wasn't romantic. She notes, "I thought he was just a needy friend, but now I recognize his behaviors as controlling and manipulative." Ali says that when he continued to harass her after the incident—constant texting, asking to see her—she decided to go to the police.But an act doesn't have to be physically violent in order to be unhealthy, especially since, as Dr. Take Chloe's boyfriend, who started out "perfect." Soon, though, he became controlling and jealous, quick to get angry, and, of course, terrifyingly violent. Red flags include constant texting or showing up uninvited when you're hanging out with friends, wanting to dictate what you wear or who you talk to, checking your phone or asking for your passwords, isolating you from your friends or family, and threatening you in any way.