You can tell more about a person in half an hour, than weeks of emailing. “It's always better to meet an online date sooner than later - it's too easy to message endlessly, and you need to find out whether you have chemistry off-screen before you down a flirty emoticon rabbit hole that could last for weeks or months,” she explains.
“Try not to message for more than two weeks, and if you're nervous, you could always speak on the phone first.
But the simple truth is that messaging on the internet is nothing more than a fact-finding mission.
Published in the Journal of Computer-Mediated Communication, it explains that there’s a ‘tipping point’ when it comes to online dating.
Put simply, how soon you meet will have a direct effect on your chemistry. You could be consigning yourself to a disappointing date.
Baldly, without meeting someone, there’s only so much information you can glean about them – knowing someone’s taste in films, music, food does not a personality make. There’s a danger of idealising them and imagining your future together before you’ve exchanged a single smile.
What’s more, you have no way of telling which bits of information are true.
You can ‘get to know’ someone from behind the safety of a screen.
But a recent study by the University of South Florida suggests that – while a short period of messaging is fine – we actually shouldn’t wait too long to arrange a meeting.
Thankfully, the window isn’t too terrifying (no one is saying that you have to slurp coffee in the first 24 hours).
No, according to American researchers, the tipping point comes between 17 and 23 days after the first message is sent.
Now, I’m not for a moment hinting at any sinister goings-on.
The fact is – you’re unlikely to meet a con artist or lunatic.
But it’s a thorny issue - and one that must be tackled, as more and more of us turn to the online dating.