It’s not just about asking a bunch of questions; it’s about valuing a questioning attitude. Sort them alphabetically to make it easier on your eyes. Remember: The most effective way to attract people’s attention is to B-R-E-A-K their patterns.
So, if you want to become a master storyteller, my suggestions are: (1) Listen to Story Theater program. Ultimately, stories are the best way to communicate a message. In his book, , my friend Dale Furtwengler suggests, “Gain an eclectic education. Ask yourself what it is about this person that makes them so interesting. Or, if the conversation was not about sports, he’d go out of his way to make sure it slowly became that way.
I once had a boss whose sole interest, purpose and passion in life was sports. The guy couldn’t carry conversation like a normal person unless the topic related to sports. ) What IS as a problem, however, is when you maintain such a limited worldview and openness for activities and experiences outside of your scope of interest, that is mars your ability to relate to others in a healthy way.
Stories are what customers; readers and audiences remember and connect with most.
First, figure out the lesson(s), universal human experience/emotion, practical take home value and Call to Action. This idiom of psychological attractiveness means “someone with high mental appeal AND significant substance.” It’s more enduring, attractive, marketable, approachable, memorable and, of course, more INTERESTING.
Increase the choice about the quality of your experience.” Check out this . So, there’s a certain dissonance when people observe an unexpected or unexplained behavior. On a scale from 1-10, how interesting would you say you are? Make a list called, “Top Ten Most Interesting People I Know.” Next to each one, write three attributes, actions or states of being that make those people so interesting. Extract the key ideas and then ask yourself how you can practice that in your own life. Next, make a list called, “Top Ten Least Interesting People I Know.” Next to each one, write three attributes, actions or states of being that make those people so uninteresting. Extract the key ideas and then ask yourself how you can practice the opposite of in your own life. “Evaluate critically every novelty you encounter,” Mihály Csíkszentmihályi wrote in his amazing book Creativity. And the combination of those three results will mold your melon into an attractive, valuable commodity that your clients will want to have access to.
In his mind-blowing book, Playful Perception, Herbert Leff suggests, “Expand your repertoire of useful awareness plans and you will improve the flavor and value of your inner experiences. And curiosity is a natural motivator of human engagement. Similarly, Edward De Bono encourages people to embrace curiosity by constantly saying, “Now that’s interesting…”“Be able to find interest in almost anything,” De Bono says in the aforementioned How to Have a Beautiful Mind.
The more quickly you can connect with your listeners, the more effectively you can communicate in their language, the more insights you can port from other disciplines, the more valuable you become.” Your challenge is to infuse your writing, ideas and conversations with the cool, interesting things you’ve learned through your eclectic education.