That being said, there's nothing wrong with having deal-breakers — as long as your mind is open when it comes to the littler things. The concept of love happening 'when you least expect it' is tired, so let's put this cliché to bed, shall we?
Being picky is subjective, and it's up to you to reflect and figure out whether you're rejecting people for valid reasons, or merely self-sabotaging by being hyper-critical of potential partners.
Over the past month, Mandy Stadtmiller, Chief Editor at XOJane has been using Plenty Of Fish to test out popular dating cliches to see if they hold any truth (all in hopes of finding a great date for Valentines Day).
Learning Point: Being bold, fearless and concise is the only way to play it. Challenge: Walk around New York City with a sign that says, “I’m currently SINGLE.” Learning Point: Humiliation leads to fearlessness leads to risk taking leads to amazing things happening.Challenge: Create a scavenger hunt for your first date. Cliché #21: “Don’t kiss on a first date” Challenge: Poll Twitter and find out if it’s okay to get intimate early on.While it's true that dating takes effort and you won't see results unless you get out of your comfort zone, it's kinda irritating to have someone tell you to "put yourself out there." Out where? On a serious note, it's true that you need to be active about dating if you're seeking a relationship, but that doesn't mean you need to fling yourself blindly into the dating pool if you're not ready — whether that's emotionally, mentally, financially, etc.Instead of slapping someone's butt baseball-coach style and saying In some ways, this is good advice, because it's easy to use "pickiness" as an excuse to not meet anyone at all. The sentiment is nice, but I understand why it's one of Millennials' most-hated dating clichés: it's vague, and implies that we have no control over our love lives — which isn't really a comforting thought.Obviously, we all want and deserve partners who will accept our flaws and let us be ourselves around them.
But taking the "me at my worst" part literally can be a problem if, you know, you actually need to work on some stuff, too.
To save you from going to the same trouble to find a date, we’ve provided a crash course in defining and testing 30 of the most popular dating cliches below, based on Mandy’s findings. Challenge: Watch the Super Bowl with a group of manly men being exactly as they are.
Learning Point: I love men so hard, especially when they are being all manly men.
Learning Point: Coyness and directness are equally great strategies.
Challenge: Message 10 men older and 10 men younger than me on POF. Learning Point: Younger men are thirstier than the silver foxes – which is less attractive.
Needless to say, there's plenty of bad dating advice to go around.