By definition, sexual coercion is “the act of using pressure, alcohol or drugs, or force to have sexual contact with someone against his or her will” and includes “persistent attempts to have sexual contact with someone who has already refused.” Think of sexual coercion as a spectrum or a range.It can vary from someone verbally egging you on to someone actually forcing you to have contact with them.But for many of us, boundary-building is a relatively new concept and a challenging one.
What is it about this interaction, or the person’s expectation that is bothering me?Resentment usually “comes from being taken advantage of or not appreciated.” It’s often a sign that we’re pushing ourselves either beyond our own limits because we feel guilty (and want to be a good daughter or wife, for instance), or someone else is imposing their expectations, views or values on us, she said.“When someone acts in a way that makes you feel uncomfortable, that’s a cue to us they may be violating or crossing a boundary,” Gionta said.3. With some people, maintaining healthy boundaries doesn’t require a direct and clear-cut dialogue.It’s like the universe is trying to tell you something, or to teach you a lesson, or […] Read more By Sarah Elizabeth Richards You want to look your best when you’re dating new people. In your head, you just have to buckle down on your calorie count for a few weeks or months, and you’ll look great in your tightest jeans or fitted leather […] Read more Emily Nunn’s new book The Comfort Food Diaries: My Quest for the Perfect Dish to Mend a Broken Heart is a memoir about a woman in the midst of grief.In the wake of her brother’s death, her fiancé breaks up with her and her life falls apart. First, she moves […] Read more Dating can be exciting, exhilarating, and, naturally, nerve-wracking!Not even a year later, that thought has become a reality.
Boundaries are essential to healthy relationships and, really, a healthy life. Unfortunately, it’s a skill that many of us don’t learn, according to psychologist and coach Dana Gionta, Ph. We might pick up pointers here and there from experience or through watching others.So identify your physical, emotional, mental and spiritual limits, Gionta said.Consider what you can tolerate and accept and what makes you feel uncomfortable or stressed.Usually, this is the case if people are similar in their communication styles, views, personalities and general approach to life, Gionta said.They’ll “approach each other similarly.”With others, such as those who have a different personality or cultural background, you’ll need to be more direct about your boundaries.For many of us, Thanksgiving kicks off a season of celebration which doesn’t really seem to stop until sometime in January.