Resources: If you start dating someone with kids and it starts getting serious, .
Get some books on step-parenting (this one’s my personal fave for ladies) and look online for some support forums—Facebook has lots.
Overall, let’s be honest: dating someone with kids, particularly when you don’t want your own, is tricky to navigate. However, if your partner is a skilled parent with good boundaries with their ex, has the ability to help you navigate this world, and you’re willing to be patient and flexible, it can be amazing.I have two stepkids and I wouldn’t trade them for the world (a bottle of wine on some nights, ). You have a lot in common with this person, they’re witty and entertaining, they’re sexy AF and you have a sneaking suspicion the sex is gonna be good. You know they have kids, but even though you aren’t really a kid person, nothing’s going to harsh your buzz when you’re drugged up on their awesomeness. Once upon a time, I began to date a man with two children.He’s a great guy and such a good fit for me in many ways. I don’t want kids of my own, yet here I am, co-parenting at his side like a pro.Maybe you’re thinking, ‘Hey, it’s OK; he only has them every other weekend, so basically I can forget his ex exists.’ I want to hug you and pat your head.
The ex will always be a part of your new love’s life, and their kids.’ You’ll always hear about them, the kids will talk about them, the kids may even look like the ex you so desperately want to forget ever existed.
Be okay with that, because nothing can be forced; kids can’t be fooled and if you try to apply an agenda, it won’t work out.
If I had a dime for every time someone asked me, “So…do you ever think about having your own kids?
Perhaps you’ve got a demanding job/yoga schedule/pet and maybe your childfree adventures allow you to keep busy—you’re golden.
Your new love can—and should—always make time for you when they’re able to, but don’t take it personally when things with the kiddos come up, because it’s not about you.
Boundaries are the key to success between your playmate and their ex.