They find their partners easily because they are convinced they can!
What was it like for you coming in to such an established and well-loved show with, as you said, such passionate fans?
It is incredible the amount of online sleuthing our fans get up to because I was sent fan mail before I was even on the show!
Some people find it very easy to meet new partners and hardly ever have gaps between relationships. If you are not one of them, and it normally takes you longer to find somebody new – maybe a year, or even a few years – you might find it very puzzling, even frustrating.
It doesn’t matter whether their relationships last for years or months – somehow they manage to never stay single for long and easily meet a new love interest shortly after breaking up: a month or two passes and… They do not seem to be any more “deserving” to have a relationship than the rest of us – so how do they do it? Some of them feel that they must have someone in their lives all the time, so they keep going from one relationship to the next, since they absolutely dread the thought of being single.
" I had to make Allie someone people could believe and invest in.
Bea desperately deserved some kind of respite and love, an escape from her world, and that's exactly what she got in the end.
Their need to be with someone is stronger than desire to have a meaningful relationship.
Because of that they hardly break up before they meet someone new, so they appear like they find partners easily: the truth is, they just can’t stand being alone and do everything they can to keep the old relationship, whether they are happy in it or not.
They are not needy and afraid of being single, and they have a sizeable checklist.
The secret of their success is confidence that they will find what they’re looking for, and that there is enough choice out there for them.
you could fall in love with a picture, without even meeting the actual person! In theory, the more things we add to the list – the trickier it becomes to find people who match them.