These 10 simple tips can help make dating a bit easier. With greater awareness about depression, the stigma of mental illness has diminished somewhat.
If you’re depressed, dating can magnify some of your challenges, such as fatigue, irritability, low self-esteem, and reduced libido. Therapy and/or medication use is common and often very successful.
"It is easy to get discouraged when dating online," she says.
Friedman says these types of sites can be a good place to go to, but consider mainstream dating sites as well.
Don’t give up after meeting just one or two people.
“There are always individual differences,” she says.
“Something may come up in a conversation where it would feel like a natural time or that it would be dishonest not to.
If you don’t feel like having sex, let the person know you still find him or her attractive by cuddling or being affectionate.
It is important to know your own weaknesses and strengths and understand your dating pitfalls.
In addition to surrounding yourself with the support of friends and family, Sheela Raja, Ph D, a clinical psychologist and assistant professor at the University of Illinois at Chicago, says it’s important to let potential partners know how they can help you.
For example, if you exercise regularly to help lift your mood, ask your partner to join you.
To do this, be sure to engage in positive self-talk, Friedman says.
And if you are on medication, take it religiously; be consistent with therapy; surround yourself with a support system of friends and family; and be around upbeat, positive people.“Don’t push yourself to date if the timing doesn’t feel right,” she says. You might need to lick your own wounds first.”You don’t owe it to the person to discuss your depression on a first date, Friedman says.
Let her know you want to be with her, but you may have to keep things low-key.