Although it was hard to accept that Sara is not the person I once thought she was, I've decided to break off the friendship.
I still see her in social functions but I deliberately have minimal contact with her.
You asked your husband a question about his emotional life, and he answered you honestly and openly.
However, if what you describe really is the case, then you should tell the rest of your circle that sadly your friendship with Sara has come undone because of an unforgivable breach of trust on her part, one that's painful and the details of which you don't want to discuss. Gay Ex-BF Getting Married to Religious Girl Who Doesn't Know!: Yesterday I found out through a mutual friend that my (gay) ex-boyfriend is engaged.I don't have any reason to believe that he is cheating, but I do notice occasionally that he gets wall posts on Facebook from women who I am fairly certain are actively swinging, suggesting they hang out soon.He also maintains his accounts on some swinger online forums and checks local personal ads daily.I've already been married to a closeted swinger once, and I really would rather not go down that road again!
A: I can't get the image out of my head of your boyfriend looking like Frank Sinatra, drink in hand, fedora cocked, as he peruses the swinger websites saying, "Ringa Ding Ding." Where did you meet this guy, at a support group for exes of swingers, or of ex swingers?Eighteen months into our heterosexual relationship, I caught him red-handed, browsing gay classifieds when I came home early one day.He confessed everything, telling me how he'd been confused since adolescence, felt religious/family/social pressures to be straight, that he had strategically thrown himself into athletics for the "macho" mask it would provide him, etc. She's a nice girl, works for a charity, writes a blog about her religious faith, etc., but it's precisely because of her religiousness (shared with his parents) that he would never tell her.Is there any option that does not automatically paint me as a psycho ex-girlfriend trying to ruin their happiness?A: Let's say you were the happy young woman engaged to the man of your dreams.It is rather odd to find out your closest friend of 20 years is a cheat, liar, and pseudo-victim, and that no one else in your circle has realized that Sara is rather disturbed.