My own encounters revolved around OK Cupid and Plenty of Fish, both of which are free dating sites.
I don’t mean those innocent bathing suit pictures from last summer; I’m talking about the negligee poses and excessive cleavage. — at men’s easily predictable reactions to these photos.
Your profile needs at least one picture to get you in the game.
A professional photo is a good idea, too — and if you do it right, you can wind up with one shot for your dating profile and one for your Linked In page. If we can’t pick you out of your bowling team lineup or every picture features you in floppy hats and big sunglasses, you’re unlikely to draw much attention.
The same goes for blurry pictures or too many photos of your pets, possessions or grandkids (no offense to the little darlings). Many women I spoke with were alternately amused and disgusted by bare-chested guys flashing their pecs in — you guessed it — bathroom selfies. Ladies: The number of lewd messages you receive is directly proportionate to the amount of skin you display.
And even though procreation is off the table, I picked up clear signals from the women I met online that the meter is running, so it’s best to get on with things.
Most wanted to push past the introductory emails and calls to schedule a get-together ASAP.For instance, does “loves sports” mean you’re up for cross-country skiing and white-water rafting, or is it a declaration that every weekend is devoted to channel-surfing the pro and college games? Potential dates skimming your profile are more likely to respond to specifics.Believe me, it’s a much better strategy than scheduling a coffee date and finding you have little or nothing in common.You may be brilliant, handsome, wealthy and a great humanitarian, but you’re a non-starter without the visuals.Are you looking for an occasional dinner companion, a friends-with-benefits arrangement or a marriage candidate? The more clarity and candor you can muster (within the boundaries of good taste), the better.This applies to women in particular, but not exclusively.